Tuesday, May 7, 2013

Marriage.

It's wedding season, and I'm reaching that age where everyone around me is starting to get engaged, is planning their wedding, or it's time for their wedding. While I sit on the sidelines as the single girl, wondering when I'll even meet my guy. I'm not a girl who walks around looking for her future husband by any means. I honestly consider myself a little too selfish at the moment, with my school and work, I just don't have the time for a relationship. But as you get wedding invitations, and are surrounded by friends engaged or in a relationship, your mind occasionally wanders to the thought of when it'll all happen for you.

You may remember my post from reading When God Writes Your Love Story, which I highly recommend to any girl out there. It gives me a lot of comfort that God has the right guy out there for me, wherever he is! And when he finally does come into my life, it will be well worth the wait.

I spent last night looking through a lot of my parent's old pictures from when they were dating, and first married. My parent's are photographers, so they literally documented a lot of their dating life in their 20's and the pictures will put such a smile on your face. I love the raw emotion you see in them, the candid shots of my Mama laughing, and the shots taken of them with their friends on SSI. I'm a sentimental nut as it is, but these pictures just bring sweet tears to my eyes. My parent's were my age at the time, and you can just feel how much fun they're having in the pictures.. and they still have that much fun today.


I want a marriage like my parent's marriage. I consider myself very blessed to be witness to such a beautiful, loving, and fun marriage. I hope that one day I can have a marriage as loving, and as rewarding as theirs is.

 I want a husband that keeps me laughing every day, and encourages me to be a better person. I want someone who challenges me to be more than what I think I'm capable of. I pray that I have a husband who appreciates me, and that I will appreciate him. I pray that I have a husband who is strong in his faith, and that we can grow in our faith together. I pray for patience, for kindness, for trust, and for a relationship full of unconditional love.


I refuse to settle. And my mom has always told me that at this point in my life it's important to step back and evaluate any relationship at the 6 month mark to see if this is a person that you really want to invest more time into. It's something I've really held on to. It's so easy to get wrapped up in relationships and stay in them because you're comfortable.. and it seems scary to get out there and start over with the "single life." But in the big scheme of things, facing the single life for a little bit is definitely worth your happiness in the end. There's someone out there that God has picked JUST for YOU. You may have already met him, or you may not even know him yet. It's crazy to think about, but it makes my heart so full.

You can check out part of my parent's love story on my dad's blog here: (this is the part where my mom enters).

Much Love,

10 comments:

Nicole said...

I LOVE your sweet heart! I'm really encouraged by your attitude and I pray that The Lord would continue to teach you in this season!

Lauren said...

Girlfriend! How I've been there and still are! Thanks so much for your heart! God has a beautiful plan for us.

could your parents be any cuter?

Jordan said...

Love this post, Leslie! I struggled with staying in a relationship because I was comfortable for almost 5 years. Our future husbands are out there somewhere :)

PostgradPrep said...

LOVE THIS! I completely agree. My church is working through Ephesians 5: 21-32 right now in a series called First Love and it has been really encouraging as a single girl that God has the best plan for us! You can watch all the sermons here: http://www.summitrdu.com/messages/ I really encourage you to watch them since I know that it has really helped my outlook on what I want in a relationship.

Seashells and Southern Belles said...

This is a great post!! Your parents are too cute!

Katie said...

Aww, I love the pics of your parents!! So sweet. And these characteristics of a relationship should absolutely be present to make it permanent. Better to wait for the perfect relationship than get stuck in a mediocre one.

Kristin said...

Love this post! You can truly see the happiness on your parents faces in the old pictures and any recent ones you post of them. You WILL find the right man for you when the time is right. I am a FIRM believer in that because I feel like I am in the same boat (wondering when it will happen for me) but honestly, usually they find you when you're least expecting it!

Claudy Ashlee Francois said...

Just read this post. Praying for you as you walk through this stage. 2 years ago I moved to Haiti. Single and 28. I thought I would never get married or meet anyone. I sooo remember what it was like to watch your happy friends getting engaged and married and to be on the sidelines. Praying for you as you are in this stage :) God can and will do great things through you!

Ashlee
http://theredeemedrunner.blogspot.com

Ramblin' Blonde said...

You and I are on the same page! I feel like I am/want to be selfish with my time right now. I know when I meet someone special things will change, but for now I am focusing on things that are important to me and only me.

Heather said...

Oh Leslie, you are such a sweet girl. Seriously, the sweetest ever. Your man is out there...waiting for you, and when you meet him you will know it. You still have plenty of time for marriage and babies (and all that crap, haha).